Going from Dating to Building a Foundation for a Long Relationship
It's exciting and new when we first start dating someone. We want it to be perfect. Well, nothing is perfect, but we can build a real, loving , and long term relationship. Here are 10 important pieces to remember if you want to take it from dating to the next level and have a solid relationship.
1.) Have Personal, One on One Conversations.
When you want to have a conversation that is real and personal, don't text. We know texting is the new way to talk, but it lacks personal and close connection. Texting is alright, if you want to check in, short comments, or confirm plans, but it's not a way to get to know someone on a next level. Discussing topics, getting to know someone, and even disagreements should be in person. Texting is a good way to miscommunicate or misunderstand what someone else is communicating. We need the human connection to build from.
2.) Be Yourself!
I know most people want to be liked. You want to be and fit what your date wants, but in the long haul, that will never work. Be you, be honest, and love who you are. Someone else will love that about you too.
3.) Make Time for Your Date
The old saying is people make time for what they want. I believe that. Now, there are some circumstances where people have things in their life going on that make it harder to find time, but overall most people can find the time to hang out and have quality dates with one another. Show the person you are interested in them by making time to spend together.
4.) Don't worry what others say about your new dating partner.
You are your own best person to understand yourself and your partner. You are dating your date, not them. If people are talking negatively and adding their opinion, remember others' opinions are usually determined by their own interests. Now, if it's your best friend or close family member and they have valid points, that is something to consider and ask yourself about.
5.) Communication is Key
Yes, the old saying is true. Communication is the tool to have a great relationship or a bad relationship or no relationship at all. You will never know unless you both can communicate and talk about the good and the not so good. Communication is the key!! That pretty much says it.
6.) Chemistry and Connection
Chemistry gives you that exciting feeling physically and mentally. There is a mutual attraction and connection with one another. You either have it or you don't. You can't fake it. This is only part of the relationship, but it does take it from a friend zone to a romance.
7.) Family Discussions
No, you are not going to tell him your clock is ticking and you want a baby on the first date, but as you progress and move into a committed relationship it is important to know what the other person is thinking in regards to kids and family. Knowing what people want and their expectations are building a block in the foundation.
8.) Career and Finances
This topic is for when you're further in the relationship thinking this is " the one" Money is not everything, but it is a big topic that people argue about in relationships, so it's better to be upfront and forward thinking in discussing both your finances and future.
9.) Meet the Friends and Family
There is no set time for this, it's up to both of you. If you feel comfortable and want your date to meet, do it. If you want to wait, then wait. It's good to see how everyone mingles. They might be doing it forever.
10.) Listen to Your Heart and Brain
I would like to believe in fairy tales, but this is not Hollywood. This is the forever person to meet your expectations and make you the best person you can be. If you want to be a better person and they make you happy. That usually is the key. I do believe in " when you know, you know.
Good luck with your new dating partner!! If you don't have one or need a personalized and private match contact us at The One Matchmakers. If you need any coaching or tips please email or call us.
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